Tuesday, March 2, 2010

Something on our Hearts..........

We've been doing some heavy duty praying, soul searching, family discussing and we've come to a decision.  We have pulled The Youngun out of public school and will be schooling her at home.  This isn't a decision that we came to lightly.  We have considered it since she was born, but with her being an only child we wanted her to have other kids to play with.  She has never liked school.  I have been dealing with her not wanting to go to school every single day for 6 years.  She is 11 and still gets sick to her stomach every morning before school.  Pain in her stomach that will double her over that only happens on school days.  It has never once happened on a weekend day, a school holiday, or a day in the summer.  I knew that it was anxiety. 

On Monday morning of this week, she said she was sick, so I went ahead and took her to the doctor.  He (of course) said that he would put her on antibiotics but that she really didn't have anything.  Great.......I then mentioned the stomach thing, letting him know that I was almost positive it was anxiety.  He said......yeah we really don't have any diseases that are only Monday-Friday and not on school holidays.  We kind of laughed and then he proceeded to ask her about her grades (which are wonderful) and her friends (of which she has many) and then frowning he asked her why she didn't want to go to school.  This is a question that we've asked her many times.  Always the same answer, I don't know, I just don't like it.  I sent her to school on Tuesday and the school called me at 9 AM to pick her up because she was sick.  She was still feeling under the weather, but she wasn't at death's door.  Wednesday morning, didn't want to go to school.  Cried and cried.  I told her we had to figure something out.  She burst out with I just don't want to go to school.  I called her Daddy and that was pretty much the last straw.  The Man and I told her if she'd just make it through Thursday and Friday she didn't have to go back.  We've talked with her about it before and she was never ready.  She always adamantly said she didn't want to be homeschooled.  Wednesday she was ready, she didn't even want to finish Thursday and Friday.  Today was the last day for her and she is so happy and relaxed that she hasn't stopped jabbering since she came home (after a few tears about leaving her friends that is)  We've prayed and prayed, asking God to guide us and I'm certain that he has led us to homeschool her.  I don't know what else to do, but I do know that what we are doing now isn't working. 

I think it's going to be good!  We have a plan in place and will start feeling our way next week.  God is good and I'm thrilled to have my girl at home with me where she will be taught by someone who loves and understands her.  With His guidance we will be directing her down the right path, the path to true knowledge and self sustainability, the path of a person who loves to learn and seeks out knowledge on her own.  The Man and I have been homeschooling her in a fashion ever since she was born, she just attended public school as well.  Now we will be able to teach her in every way, and she will not be pulled in two directions........the worldly direction, and our direction. 

Till next time..............GOD BLESS FROM GOODWIFE FARM!

13 comments:

  1. Good for you all! We are a homeschooling family BUT with that said I know homeschooling is not for everyone... I wish you the best of luck on your new adventure!
    The biggest myth is that homeschoolers are not well socialized... And its just that a MYTH!.. My girls can hold a conversation with a various ages not just their own.. Homeschool groups are great but not always necessary.. Have fun!

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  2. Thanks so much Tonia! This is our first week and we are loving it already. My daughter has stated several times over that she LOVES it. Thanks for the support!

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  3. Good for you girl! I know this wasnt an easy decision for ya' though. My boys are in public school, always have been,but I commend all the homeschooling families for there ability to do it all. I really dont know that I could do it..but if God put it on my heart to do so, then by all means I would. I know that your youngun is really going to appreciate this from you. By the way that picture of her and the sunset is gorgeous. You captured a great photo opp. Dontcha' just love it when your in the right place at the right time and you got your camera handy!
    Blessings,
    ~Trish~

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  4. Thanks so much Trish! :) That picture was from our vacation in November at Navarre Beach Fl.

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  5. It took me a long time to decide to homeschool. Hard decision but one that I am happy with.
    I'm sure your daughter will do well with it because first of all she will be happy at home instead of miserable at school.
    Best of luck to you both!

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  6. It sure sounds like you made the right decision for you daughter. I had a very similar situation with my son several years ago. He was sick on school days and cried when he was young when I "made" him go to school. I homeschooled both my son and daughter for 2 years and then my daughter wanted to go back to public school. She graduated from public and my son continued homeshooling. He is grown, married and has a son if his own now. My daughter is married and homeschools her two sons. I thing you'll be very pleased ... not that every day will be easy, because there will be times that are trying for everyone. Blessings to you and your family!

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  7. Have been following your blog for a while and I think you have made the right decision for your daughter, however difficult it was. It is hard to send an unhappy child off to school. She can still see her friends, right?

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  8. Hi Wendy! Thanks for the comment. Yup, she can see her friends any time she wants to call them or invite them over is just fine. She has some good kids for friends so that's a good thing! Thanks once again for your kind words!

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  9. i was released into home school when i was in high school. It was for health reasons, but i think it was best for me. i have a few friends that were home schooled and I think it's great as long as they have supportive parents that will make sure they learn (which y'all seem to be!). My mom teaches in kindergarten and she's come across so many parents that don't do anything with their children's learning at home--they just expect the school to do everything so KUDOS to you and your hubby for helping her learn at home

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  10. Great job on your weight loss this week....Way to get back on track!

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  11. Good luck with the homeschoolin'. It seems to be more popular nowadays. This is why I don't have kids, so I don't have to make the hard decisions!

    BTW, your new babies are TOOOOOO CUTE!

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  12. My best friends growing up were homeschooled and how I envied them! I was in the same situation as your daughter - had good grades, had a few close friends, but I HATED school! Kids can be terribly mean, especially in jr. high and high school. While I wasn't always the one getting picked on, I saw what they did to other kids and I was disgusted. I got a taste of homeschooling when I was so sick in h.s. that I couldn't finish the term so I stayed at a neighbor's house and had tutors give me my courses. It was wonderful! One of the few times that I actually got an A in math! Unfortunately, as soon as I was better, mom kicked me right back into school - she doesn't believe in homeschooling. I hope everything goes well for you guys, just believe in yourself as a mom - you know what's best for your Youngin!

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  13. When you are following the Lord you can rest assured that He will bring the blessings for it. Not to say that everyday is going to be wonderful but the time spent with your daughter will be all worth it. We have been homeschooling for 9 years now. After our first year we sent our daughter to 1st grade public school and had the same thoughts~ nothing horribly wrong but we knew God wanted her home with us. Enjoy this time together:))I enjoyed your blog:)) God, goats, family and gardening~ sounds like us!

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