Friday, March 26, 2010

Some Thoughts on the Bible and Other Matters of Faith.....

I know some unbelievers, and I follow the blog of an unbeliever or two. Most of the female unbelievers I know were once believers who have "left the faith". Most of them have done so because of bad marriages. They say that being a Christian is demeaning to women by forcing women to submit to men, keeping women in bondage, condoning and encouraging abuse and worse. Wow. They aren't reading the same Bible that I'm reading.

The Bible clearly states that women should submit to their husband. We all know that, even if we may not like it. The kicker is, and the part that most people don't acknowledge or recognize or whatever is what the Bible says about MEN and how they should act toward their wives. In that oh so famous verse of

Ephesians 5:22-24

Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.
I suppose to some that may seem to be totally unreasonable and impossible, and yes even foolish to do. Yet if you read on...

Ephesians 5:25-25,28,31,33
Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her Husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.Each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.
There are lots more verses like this, but I'll let you look them up yourself if you are interested. The point is this... God gave us a brain. He gave us the tools that we need for living. He commanded women to love, respect, and submit to their husband. If you can't love, respect, and submit to the man you are dating, then DON'T MARRY HIM! If he doesn't love you as he loves himself, cherish and respect you and enjoy taking care of you, then DON'T MARRY HIM! There are people out there who think the Bible condones spousal abuse, extra-marital affairs, and who knows what else. I think they believe this because they aren't opening the Book and reading it themselves, they are looking for others to tell them what to believe. You must use the brain that God blessed you with, dig into the Word of God and read it yourself, then figuring out what is true and what isn't.

I chose my husband with God in full control. Therefore I am blessed with a man who loves me as he loves himself, and I have no problem submitting to him in all things. Does that mean we don't discuss? Of course not! Does that mean he doesn't take my opinion into account? Again, of course not! We talk, discuss, debate and consult on every single decision that we make, from what type of toilet paper to buy, to if we buy new appliances. It does however, mean that I respect my husband enough (or I wouldn't have married him) to respect his decision as final. It also means that because of the love and true respect my husband has for me we usually arrive at the same decision!

In closing I'd like to say this. (I know you are so ready for me to stop typing :P) The Youngun's Bible verse for Wednesday was Colossians 3:20
This opened up a discussion about blind obedience. I asked her what this verse meant to her. She said it meant do what your folks tell you because it makes God happy. I said that's right. But what if a parent were to tell a child to go up to the store and steal them a soda. Should the child do it? If they don't do it, they are disobeying their parent. She said, but if they do it, they are disobeying God. I asked which was worse. She said disobeying God. Good girl! God's word is law, first and foremost. If you've got some nutjob who blew up an abortion clinic because "God told him to" his Christian education fell apart somewhere along the way because the God that I know, love, and walk hand in hand with every day wouldn't tell somebody to do that. If a husband beats his wife because "the Bible says she must submit, and I'm teaching her to submit!" then again, his Christian education is lacking! And yes, if a woman embarrasses her husband in public, puts him down and totally disrespects him, then her Christian education is sorely lacking.
Children, obey your parents in everything, for this pleases the Lord

Choose your spouse wisely. If you don't particularly even like them, then don't yoke yourself to them for life! Use the brain God blessed you with.

Sorry for the soapbox, but I was folding laundry and had this whole blog post in my head, so I had to come post it! :)

Till next time............GOD BLESS!


  1. Amen! Super points and a wonderful post.

  2. What a wonderful post...I always tell people I have married a chosen person of God...He is Jewish..But has accepted..Throughout our marriage and it is going to be 24 years in June..I could not have picked a better guy.. Last November our oven died.. We talked about what I wanted..He told me honey you do the cooking you choose the one you want..I have always wanted the double ovens..$1699.00 or higher. He cringed but didn't say anything..I was going to buy this double oven not matter what..I went to the store and was checking all the ovens out.. You could see on his face and him saying a little prayer...I opened the door of the double oven and it went right to the floor...I thought how am I going to straddle this oven door and take out a big turkey..I knew right then and there that this dream of a double oven went right down the drain...I had this face while looking at this oven and he goes whats wrong. I said no double oven.. So we ended up with a oven that I love dearly and it isn't a double oven...What I am trying to say he respected me in choosing the right one...He did not say you will not get it..We talk about everything.Submit is a big word..But it is sweet in a loving marriage...I really love your blog..It is really nice to read about stuff that is my morals and beliefs...thank you so much for sharing..Lisa

  3. That was an excellent post!

  4. Our pastor was just talking about exactly this in Wednesday night Bible study!
    He went on to give the verse that says "Submitting ourselves One to another" He said we all have to submit to someone be it a marriage, job and just life in general.. He also pointed out the bible says a wife is to submit to HER husband NOT every Man! Women are not inferior but a partner. He is very passionate about this subject. He said he gets fed up with Arrogant men that think women are not worth the time to bother with but are suppose to be a sevant and he said that is NOT how Christ treats the church.
    He had more to say but I will stop!lol Excellent post by the way!!Love it!

  5. Beautiful post as usual.
    And again, I totally agree. I love being a wife. It is so fulfilling and unselfish. My husband has final say in everything but like you and yours, we discuss everything together first. He is the head of the household and that is the way it is supposed to be. God made man first, then woman. Not the other way around.
    On another note, I wanted to brag a little. Everytime that I go to visit my husband's work, the guys there all tell me how much he brags about me to them. He tells them about my cooking and cleaning, and how I am so respectful towards him, and how I follow his lead. Then, while I'm smiling ear to ear at the compliments, I start remembering all of the times my husband would come home and tell me the things the guys at work were saying about their wives. (lazy, rude, disrespectful, self-loving) and It made me feel sad for those men.
    Anyway I'm rambling (I do that a lot, i'm sure you have figured that out by now) LOL
    Again, great post. I enjoyed reading it!

  6. Shawla, I totally know because I get the SAME thing! Exactly the same. They've even said to me we didn't believe him, but it's really true! LOL Poor poor husbands! Although I don't know that they treat their wives the way I get treated either!


If you'd like to comment, I love to hear from folks and I will do my absolute very best to comment back or answer any questions!