Wednesday, January 27, 2010

Why I do What I do..........

I've been thinking for a few weeks now about doing a blog post about why I'm a housewife. I think there are a lot of reasons that women end up staying home, whether it be for a few years or many. Today I'm going to tell you why I'm a homemaker.........

From the time I was a little girl, I knew in the depths of my soul that I wanted to be a wife when I grew up. That is all I ever wanted to be, a wife and then a mama and then a wife again. I never wanted to do anything else. I didn't decide to become a homemaker because my daughter was born, or because the job market was down, or because I lost a job or because I'm not smart enough or competitive enough to make it in a "real" career. Being a homemaker was the career path that I chose. When I was little I played house, and I played it hard. I was about 12 or so when I started my hope chest, asking for kitchen tools, crockery bowls, utensils and things for Christmas and birthdays. I would go to yard sales and buy things like glassware and table-cloths. I started doing almost all of the cooking at home when I was around that age as well. As I got older, any boy that I dated knew that marriage and being a homemaker was on my mind (boy did that ever scare some fellas back in the 90's!) I'm a passionate and determined woman. I know what I want and I go after it and that was pretty intimidating to 20 year old boys! There were a couple relationships that I ended after a few weeks because I knew that this wasn't a man I wanted to marry so why waste his or my time?

When I met The Man, we started out as friends. He actually had a girlfriend but it wasn't a good relationship. We talked about everything under the sun. We talked about hopes and dreams, goals, children, parenting styles, anything you can think about we discussed just in the course of our friendship. We had known each other for about a month when he broke things off with his girlfriend and we became inseparable from that moment on. We got married exactly 2 months to the day from our first date. I had just turned 19 years old and The Man was 23. God sent us to each other there isn't a doubt in my mind and He's been right there with us through the past 14 years together.

I did continue working until our daughter was born 2 years later, but I always considered it my "second" job. My first priority was always, and will always be taking care of my home and family. Since the birth of The Youngun, I've had two different part time jobs, both during her school hours and not during the summer. I wasn't happy in either of them, but some really difficult financial times called for some really heavy duty prayer and God provided them for me to get us over the rough patches. Both times, as soon as the rough patch was over God took those jobs away from me. I didn't quit them, I lost them because God knows that home is where I belong. My Heavenly Father knows that being a homemaker is my Divine calling and He knew to take me out of those jobs and put me back in the one that I truly belonged in.

I'm never so happy and content as when I'm hausfrauing it. I don't let anything interfere with my job as Homemaker of Goodwife Farm. I take it as seriously as another woman takes her paying job. That is so hard to explain to people who don't get it. I didn't fall into this gig, I'm not doing it until my daughter is raised, it's not something I do because day care is too expensive. This is my career path, this is my job, it's my calling and I love it. My entire childhood was spent preparing for this job. Those were my college years I guess you would say, the years of getting me prepared to take care of a household.

When I'm trying to explain this to someone, I usually tell them to think of their Great-Great Grandma...........that's me. With apron on, wooden spoon in one hand and a dish towel over my shoulder, I've got my uniform and my tools and that's all I need. I love my life, I don't resent it, I don't want any other. I'm a woman, I'm a wife, I'm a mother, I'm a homemaker, I'm a girl, I'm strong and resilient, passionate, creative, and intelligent. I love my husband and enjoy showing him my love and respect by providing him with a clean house, good food, fresh laundry, and a caring and sympathetic ear.

I'm not about to say that this lifestyle is for everybody, differences are what make the world go round, I just wanted to explain why I do what I do, and let the world know that I do it because I love it! I have no intention of ever entering the "real" work force again. However, should a rough patch arise, I know that God will put me where I need to be at the time, and I'll be content knowing that He'll bring me back home as soon as the rough patch is over!

I haven't even begun to articulate the passion that I feel for this subject.......perhaps I'll have to blog on it again at a later date.  As a matter of fact I KNOW that I'll be blogging on it again, cause I got a lot to say on the subject.  Suffice it to say that I'm a Housewife and I'm as proud of that as if I were a lawyer, a doctor, a newspaper editor or any other career. I pray that my daughter will have the strength of will to shoot for the moon and never settle for less than her dreams, whatever they may be, because there is no better prescription for happiness than asking God for guidance, knowing what you want and then going out there and getting it! I am living the life that I always envisioned for myself and I'm indescribably thankful to God for such a glorious gift!

Till next time.................GOD BLESS FROM GOODWIFE FARM!


  1. I think it's great that you are doing what you love. I tell my husband he drew the short straw with me and homemaking. I soooo dislike doing household stuff. He does the dishes and the laundry. I do, however, love to cook. I found my perfect mate. We compliment each other well. He's the best hubby!

  2. I can promise you that if I didn't love it, I wouldn't be doing it! It's wonderful that you and hubby compliment each other so well........a gift to have found each other, as I'm so thankful for my man! Finding your "perfect" mate is a wonderful blessing!

  3. I love the way you articulated your points. I actually have been thinking of writing a blog post about being a homemaker, homeschooling your children and raising them up as the Lord directs, and taking care to live up to your womanly God-spoken role! I could never articulate it as good as you have. Thank you for sharing your reasoning, as you can tell I strongly feel the same way also! I, like you love what I do and a lot of people cannot understand that. They seem to not be able to fathom why a 25 year old would want to stay at home cooking and cleaning all day...why a 25 year old would not care to go out and party! SMH...anyway again thanks for sharing, I don't mean to write a novel.

  4. I love this post! I think it really speaks to the fact that women can choose what they want to do in life, however early on, and go for it! Homemaking is not some thing of the past that our non-liberated granmothers did, it's still something that competent, educated, free-thinking women do out of intention. For me, it's very important that my daughter knows being a homemaker is a career choice she can make, like being an executive or a doctor, and that it has a place of importance in our society. Thank you for sharing this post with me!

  5. I read this post when I first found your blog. I just re-read it and still love it. People can't always understand that there are those of us who WANT to do this - not because of situation or circumstance. I dunno how 9-5ers do it - work all day and then come home and have all the housework and/or kids to look after. At the same time, I get a lot of them who tell me they dunno how I do it!
    ITA with Lara above, and Supermommy too - age shouldn't discourage you from knowing what you want and going after it.


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